The past couple of weeks has been really though because my relationship was hitting rock bottom. Last week I decided that it was best for me to break up with my boyfriend and simply move on. Even though it was an over three year relationship, I just think that there was lot of things missing in the relationship. I think this chapter is really interesting because I explains to me what we we should be looking for in a relationship and the fulfillment that is needed to have a healthy relationship. The first thing that caught my eye was the Theories of Love. This explains the characteristic of the triangle of love, basically the three main characteristics of an intimate relationship. These are: intimacy, commitment and passion.
I felt like I have been in an empty love for months. He loves me and he is committed to me because we have lived together for over a year and had a 3 year relationship. However, intimacy and passion was not there anymore.
The second interesting fact that was really interesting to me was self-disclosure. I think sometimes it is hard to have self-disclosure if you do not know yourself. I started a relationship too young and it was hard for me to know who I actually was when I have been committed to someone since I was 17 and never actually explored myself of what I actually like and what I was looking for. I think self-disclosure it is really important in a relationship but you also need to know yourself first before you let someone in your life. Also accepting yourself and embracing who you are. I think for me it was really hard to love myself because I was trying to please someone else. I think this is when working out worked out for me because it was something that I actually did for myself and not for anyone else or to make anyone happy. It is the place where I can be happy and I work on my physical appearance, as well as my mental and emotional health. Last week I was so worked up on my relationship that I left the only thing I like doing slip away. However, this week I started going back and focusing on the things that I should actually be worry about like school and my health.
The last topic I found interesting was the coping with failed relationship. I think it is really important to connect with yourself and find someone like a friend who would support you and help you get through the situation. I also think that thinking that it will be okay and that things will get better with time and that there is someone out there who will love me and have the same passion I have and value me for who I am. I also think that doing the things that make you happy, for me is the gym, going back to working out, it definitely helps me let my mind not stress as much. Because I did not workout for over a week, it was hard for me to go back to it. I also felt like I struggled working out but it is better going and doing my best than just giving up.
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